Divide and Conquer

First things first, we both work full-time during the day and we both have our own things going on as well. For the most part, he does his extra work during the week in the evenings and I do the overwhelming majority of mine late at night or on the weekends when the little guy is sleeping.

I take care of most of the day-to-day cleaning – dishes, laundry, and floors. My husband cooks and handles our finances. I cook sometimes, but he’s much better at it, trust me.

He cuts grass and shovels snow. We both fill the wood burner – he definitely does it more often than I do, but if he’s not here, I can do it as well. We both clean up after the dogs.

Most of the time, we go grocery shopping together. I almost always put away the groceries. That’s just my thing. I’m not really sure why.

Now, what about all of us? He generally makes sure that the dogs have food and water and baths them. More often than not, I’m the one that feeds the little guy and baths him.

It would seem to me that the division of labor around here is more or less fair. We both basically do the same things – whether intentionally or by chance. We’ve fallen into a routine that, for the most part, works for us. There are days when things get changed around and rearranged, of course. There are days when one or the other of us does basically nothing because we’re some kind of sick. Sometimes, there’s even an occasional day when everything gets mixed up and you find one of us doing things that the other normally would – stranger things have certainly happened.

Generally speaking, though, everyone has their own responsibilities and as long as those chores are tended to in a timely manner, everything runs smoothly – at least most of the time.

What about you? How do you and your husband or significant other divide and conquer – who does what? Do you feel it’s mostly fair? Leave a comment and share your thoughts.

Written by: Cristi Wuenschel