Somewhere in the Middle

1. I’m a thinker. He’s a doer. If you’re looking for ideas, I’m your woman. If you want to get things done, definitely talk to him – that’s his area of expertise. I spend a lot of time brainstorming and making notes. He’s known for being knee deep in some sort of project more often than not. 

2. He’s flexible and tends to just go with it. I thrive on structure. I like lists and schedules. I’m a planner. I like to know what we’re doing ahead of time. My husband, on the other hand, tends to be more spontaneous. He’s more likely to make plans at the last minute. 

3. I’m artistic. He’s mechanical. His strengths come in the form of building and/or fixing things. I can’t, for the life of me, wrap my head around it. I much prefer to spend my time reading, writing, and making art in one form or another. 

4. He’s, for the most part, carefree. I’m definitely the more high-strung of the two of us. My husband takes life as it comes. I seem to have this tendency to fixate on things more than I probably should. 

5. I’m an introvert. I’m slow to warm up to people and, for the most part, content on my own. My husband, on the other hand, is definitely more of an extrovert. Whereas I prefer quiet alone time to regroup, he’d rather have people around. 

I’m not implying that either set of personality traits is better or worse or right or wrong – just that we are extremely different people. We’ve been together, though, for over a decade. Maybe, in a lot of ways, we balance each other. 

Have you ever taken the time to really think about how alike and/or different you and your husband are? Have you ever considered how that might affect your day to day? Has it ever occurred to you that, maybe, the fact that you are so alike and/or different helps your relationship more than hinders it? Leave a comment and share your thoughts. 

Written by: Cristi Wuenschel